YOU COULD BE HAPPY EVER AFTER

As human beings we are often times sub-consciously selective and prefer to fall in love based on certain physical or material attribute that our object of affection possesses. If she is fresh with a firm tummy, standing breast, hour glass figure and straight legs, then she has to be the ONE or if he has six packs, looks dapper, drives a custom made car and lives in Banana Island, then he is the ONLY ONE for you; otherwise he or she can keep their love for someone else.

Everyone has some level of expectation from the person they hope to fall in love with. We all desire that special person that will show us another world we never knew existed. That one person that comes to mind whenever you listen to John Legend’s ‘All of Me’ and when it rains or snows, we always wish we were wrapped in their arms.

Setting your sights on a Drop Dead Diva or an Omo Baba Olowo is not entirely a bad idea if you ask me. An average woman should be able to appear elegant and attractive and any man going into a serious relationship should be able to support his partner. However, there is no guarantee that ending up with a very beautiful woman or a moneyed man is your one way ticket to everlasting happiness. No amount of good looks or riches can make up for all the years of emotional and physical abuse that lies ahead of you if things turn awry. Factors such as beauty or wealth in which many love relationships are built on these days, can sink within a short time. This is because these factors are mostly tailored for flings or trips and not for long lasting relationships or marriage.

Occasionally, we find that relationships these days crash even before they start flying simply because they were built on deception from the inception. True happiness in a relationship cannot be completely determined by the size of a man’s wallet or the size of a woman’s hips. Every object of our affection should be judged by whom he or she is and not entirely by their physical or material attribute. And let it never be said that we have forgotten the most fundamental objective of love which is happiness.

When you eventually fall in love, make sure his bank account or her physical endowment is not the only thing that attracts you. One of the most important reasons we often choose to fall in love is to attain a state of unimaginable joy. So we are constantly in the lookout for this wonderful person and when we find them we try to keep it in a permanent state. To find someone who makes us happy is one thing and to keep them is another thing.

We fall in love, expecting it will work itself out but it doesn’t always work out that way. Often we are faced with situations that will try to take away our happiness. Sometimes we are not well prepared or strong enough to hold on, often times we find more happiness in the arms of someone else, other times we just let the happiness go because we think that we do not deserve to be that happy and in exceptional cases we give up our happiness on the altar of ethnicity or religion.

I have felt what true love and happiness can be like and I advise that you hold onto what feels true to you. What is most important is that when the storms rage and all you have left is each other that your partner is someone you can trust absolutely. Someone that will not let go off your hand when the waves come to test the steadfastness of your love.