HOW TO PREVENT "ACQUIRED BOYFRIEND SNATCHING SYNDROME"

I want to first thank God for the grace he has granted to me and all the beautiful people around me. Our topic for today is something I find very interesting but somehow most girls don’t pay so much attention to it. Every girl I know wants to settle down with the greatest man that ever lived but you will all agree with me it’s not a walk in the park. There are few men to go round (Population of women are more than that of men) and there are even fewer good men around these days. So we all scramble for the small fraction and apparently the “boyfriend snatching syndrome” sets in.

So here are a few tips on how you can keep your man once you have finally found him and go to sleep without fear that he will be a victim of the Acquired Boyfriend Snatching Syndrome.

Engage Him Before He Gets You Engage.
Let’s face it; I know how important physical attraction and chemistry can be to a relationship. But trust me it’s not the most significant thing when it comes to long term relationships. You must be intelligent, witty, and engaging. If I know men very well, when you have poor communication skills, they will eventually get fed up. Women who truly captures their attention, gets them excited when they see her or just talk to her on the phone is one worth keeping.

He Trusts You, But Wants You To Still Make Him A Little Jealous. Men can brag about not being jealous about their girlfriends but in fact it shows they care about you. A little bit of jealousy is not bad for business. Men like the thought that they have to work hard to keep you, and they love it when other men throw themselves all over for their woman’s attention. At the same time, they don't want you to in reality cheat on them. They just like the idea that you are desired, but that they are all you want.

Don't Find Pleasure In Petty Arguments. In a healthy relationship, two people should be able to work out their differences by engaging in a mature conversation. This does not mean digging up past sins or dwelling on minor incidences that you have been stock piling and waiting for an opportunity to make an impact. Don’t throw the past in his face or use his mistakes against him, especially if you have already forgiven him.

You Must Have Similar Views For The Future

The future is far ahead and sometimes it’s hard to imagine, but it’s still there. It’s important to understand where both of you see yourselves and more importantly your relationship. Does he want to be engaged within a year? Does he to build a mansion before walking you down the aisle? These thoughts will always be on his mind and don’t think he will forget all about it and that your relationship will go from coast to coast without these issues sinking the ship. The future of your life cannot be dictated by someone else, but it can be affected by them – and working together to find what makes you both happy in the long run, is key.

Family And Friends Matter Sometimes you don’t care how your boyfriend’s family perceives you because you feel that you are not going to be living under the same roof. Maybe you don't care what they think of you but believe me life will be easier when his family and friends are just as in love with you as much as he is. The closer you are to his mother and siblings, the closer you are to the finish line.

Let Him Be Comfortable With You In Any Situation 
When you are in a relationship, you cannot always be with your partner all the time. It’s very important to your man that your man can leave you to the gents in a social event and expect you to be just fine by the time he gets back. You should know how you to handle pressure and manage the situation around you so well that your man can be comfortable dashing off on a trip with confidence that you won’t screw up. I necessarily do not mean being unfaithful to him but taking charge of whatever situation you find yourself.

Have A Sense of Humour No Matter No Matter How Little 
Just like women, men too love to have a good laugh once in a while. It eases the pressure that their roles as providers often place on them. This is so important. Having someone without a sense of humour can be sometimes tormenting. If he makes you laugh, you too should reciprocate every now and then.

Ginger Your Man Like There is No Tomorrow

You should be one of; if not the first person he would share exciting news with. Do you often get excited about what he has accomplished, even if they are things you are not particularly interested in? You should always encourage him to chase his dreams and aspirations. When you do that, he is stuck on you forever.

You Are The Sunshine On His Gloomy Day
Does he wake up every morning and you are the first thing on his mind? Does seeing your chat pop up on his phone during a rough day at work make him forget about all of his worries? Does being with you take him into his own world where nothing else matters? If your answers to these questions were positive; then you better hire a wedding planner fast.

Put Some Effort, It's Not Too Much For Him
I am all about giving in relationships. Personally, I love to give and do things for my girlfriend. Seeing her happy makes me happy – and I believe if two people both feel that way in a relationship, it will be a success. Putting your effort doesn’t have to be much. It can be something as simple as buying his groceries so he doesn’t have to eat outside or sitting by his side while he watches his favourite football team.

You Can Be Together Through Thick And Thin
Relationships are not always rosy. Things can get really tough, times can be extremely hard, and we all need a support system. Are you always there for him when he needs you? If a man’s support is not reciprocated by his woman, then the more likely he is to go in search of someone who understands the importance of your feelings. A man expects his girlfriend to be his best friend, someone he can laugh and cry with. Men place more value on women who are there for them no matter the condition.

You Must Turn His Life Around Not Upside Down
A few months after he met you, he got a promotion at work. Things start to fall in place. You help him get stuffs organized around the house. Then he gets a new car. He stops eating outside and his debt profile starts reducing. You make him a better person and he embraces the things of God. His vision becomes clearer because you are stimulating him intellectually. He starts dressing like a man and not a boy. His value appreciates gradually and his confidence increases. Girlfriend you are so going nowhere!

Miss Independent Can Do Wrong 
A woman that can handle her business all by herself without having to always bother the man is somebody you can rely on. It’s a huge motivation for men and they will gladly give you their unwavering support and guide you to achieving greater excellence. If I know men very well, they give more when you don’t demand it from them.

You Constantly Got His Back It means so much to any man to know that his partner is always on his your corner cheering him all the way. When men feel supported, it makes a world of difference to them and they owe it to you to be in theirs forever.

Always Be Honest Even When It Hurts
No man will want to do away with a woman who tells them the truth just like it is. Someone who cares for you wants to you succeed will help you, even if it means telling you the bitter truth. I am not talking about nagging (that is totally wrong). I mean someone who keeps it real when it’s needed. You play devil's advocate and give him honest feedbacks. They might be mad at first, but they will appreciate you later and certainly keep you.

Keep Seeking Attention at Your Own Detriment Girls, who are always looking for attention or to be noticed, are often insecure and are looking to be overcompensated. Men give more compliments to women who don’t yearn for it. They see it that you are likely more concerned about your own happiness, than you would be about theirs. Girls who are content with their own self confidence and don’t look elsewhere for validation, shine from within and will add more value to a man. The last thing any man wants is sorry looking girl who is just seeking something anyone else can give her. This doesn’t provide any sort of foundation for a rock solid relationship.

Both of You Should Always Be On The Same Page 
In my experience, timing and location can impact relationships more than just about anything else. Do you want more than he is willing to provide? Are you emotionally stable? Do you just want something casual and not too committing? Are you interested in having kids and raising them as a stay at home mum? Are you over spiritual? A lot of these questions can be deal-breakers, and the more you have in common the better it is on the long run.

Make Him Feel Like A Real Man Men love to always feel in charge all the time and when you can constantly make him feel that you are devoted to him, he will definitely keep you. Consequently, it is important for you to be in a relationship with somebody you don't frequently overshadow. Even the average gentlemanly jolly shy fellow likes to feel like a real man sometimes.

Finally, it’s no secret that sometimes the spark wears off of longer term relationships, but you shouldn’t let it and neither should he. If you continue to do what attracted him in the first place, it shows you care about him keeping you around. So when people ask him why he loves you, he can't think of any words to describe it. He can only list all your great qualities but they aren't exactly why he loves you. His love for you is drawn irresistibly by something about your very true nature and the totality of the qualities you possess. 

Please share this with your girlfriends so that we can all adhere to the principles and get rid of boyfriend snatching by 2020. May God grant you all the favour to find a good man that will appreciate your qualities, help you harness your hidden talents and keep you forever. Love you all!


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