YOU WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMEONE THAT WILL LOVE YOU

You must have at one point or the other in your relationships had misgivings that your partner was minding more than just your business. Well in this age of social media, it’s almost always the case. Many people in committed relationships tend to have pockets of extra relationship affairs scattered all over the place. Well, as long as your partner makes you feel that you are still number one, what’s the big deal with sharing their affection with others, right?

Here is the big deal, when you give your partner an inch they most likely would ask for a yard. That harmless fling with the girl down the road swiftly metamorphoses into a secret steamy affair. And all of a sudden, your number one position is soon under threat. Then your partner stops giving you the usual dose of daily affection and hardly tells you where they are going to or coming from. At this point, you can’t help but worry about the true state of your relationship.

So, what do you do when you find out your other half is warming up to someone else? Would you get all insecure and see yourself as inferior and wished you were as intelligent, wealthy or beautiful as the other person? Do you burst into hot passionate tears and hope that they both drown in your tears? Would you just accept your fate and move on because you believe that what is meant to be will always be? You can come up with a thousand reasons but is there really a satisfactory method to respond to an external threat to your territory?

There was this case of a young lady who had found out that her boyfriend of three years and four months has being conducting a private affair with a seamstress who lives in another part of town. The affair started out when she began sewing uniforms for the company he worked. And the affair gradually evolved as she took it upon herself to ensure he never ran out of nice clothes. 

The young lady in question later got wind of the affair from an inside source in the office and "Operation The Boy Is Mine" was launched. Early one Saturday morning, after the covert lovers have had a Friday night of their lives, the scorned lady shows up unannounced at the front door of their secret hideout. Both women needed no introductions and what followed next can be better summarized as a "Battle for Love" with the seamstress ending up in the hospital.

That was the young lady’s way of defending her terrain. It can be so humiliating to fight over someone who claims to love you. She could have been badly hurt and the man she so desperately wanted to have would eventually settle for another woman. I personally don’t think anyone should descend so low and fight for the love of another. To physically fight a love rival is a totally foolish thing to do.

There is never a guarantee that someone you love is going to love you in return. You cannot force someone to feel what they are not feeling no matter how hard you try. It's not advisable to have someone who loves you through guilt or manipulation. This is because the relationship will never last and you would not want to keep shedding your blood to keep them.

It's very difficult to shower your love on someone and watch it go down the drain. What to do? Count your losses, learn your lessons, wish them the best and move on. 

The most important thing in every relationship is that you love yourself so much to realize when someone is taking you for a ride. Life is too short to keep on watching and praying for the day you will be loved right back. Just keep loving yourself and you will find someone along the way who will love you as much as you love them.

Love is not by fire or by force o. Peace!