THE JOURNEY TO SELF DISCOVERY

It’s natural, over the course of your lifetime, to get to a point when you question who you really are. The path to finding these answers is known as Self Discovery. Self Discovery can be seen as the process of understanding your thoughts, feelings, values and background and how they impact your life. It is also recognizing your own biases by tracing them to their roots, through reflection and then purposely looking for a positive way forward.

Discovering that you have no clear vision of who you are, or that you’ve lost the connection to yourself that seemed so certain, can be frightening. The idea of recreating your identity can seem overpowering and hectic. However, this is actually a time to celebrate who you really are. The process of reclaiming your identity is an adventure and a journey that will create not only an upgraded version of you, but also a life that is absolutely more satisfying than you ever imagined.

Basically, when you understand that your psyche contains a lot of thought patterns that are not really yours, but rather were fed superficially by external influences or formed through some misguided understanding. You begin to appreciate that you may be living a very disconnected life by following these conditioned patterns blindly. Several beliefs we hold about ourselves get seeded in our psyche, and take roots because we don’t query them.

So here are some of the steps that I believe will help you need to follow on the journey to self discovery. They are not by any means exhausted but are the basic steps to get you sorted out real good.

KEEP CALM AND STOP THANKING GOD IT'S FRIDAY

I remember those days in Secondary School when the closing bell rings on a Friday afternoon and we all run berserk like people who have just being let loose from a Minimum Security Prison. If you by chance attended a Military Christian school like mine where flogging discipline is an important a subject as Mathematics and English, you will understand what I mean. Surviving the week without getting your bum feted with bulala was an achievement we were never really able to accomplish. Like the children of Israel we couldn’t keep up with the 10 commandments. So Friday for us was like manna sent from heaven.

Fast forward to the new millennium and we are all labouring working in our various fields of endeavour and the situation is still the same. Apparently, just like our classrooms, our offices have become a Maximum Security Prison. We almost have an orgasm tear the roof off with shouts of “Thank God it’s Friday” when Friday finally comes calling.

The phrase “Thank God it’s Friday” was first coined by Jerry Healy, a disc Jockey from Akron Ohio in the early 1970’s. The “Thank God it’s Friday” bug is fast catching up with everyone and is gradually becoming an epidemic.

So my curious mind got the best of me as usual and I went in search of why we are all so obsessed about Friday. And here is what I found out.

1. The phrase is synonymous among labourers’ workers as a common expression of relief at the end of the week in anticipation of relaxing or partying through the weekend.

"Successful people don’t relax, they feel relaxed with their work, and they sleep with their Dreams & wake with a Commitment"

Labourers Workers who earn wages salaries do not find fulfillment in what they do. They labour work to build another man’s dream because they do not have the courage to pursue theirs. So Friday is the day they are free to do their own thing and most times they end up partying doing nothing.

"Greater satisfaction can only come  from living out your dreams"

3. All work and no play will put you on the Forbes List. Successful people do not distinguish one day of the week from the other. Simply because they know that every day of the week is important to their success. They know that the day they start thanking God it’s Friday, their businesses will fold up by Monday.

"Hard work has never killed anyone. It has only given them enough money to live longer"

Most people who use the phrase “Thank God it’s Friday” also use the phrase “Oh no it’s Monday again”. This only implies that they don’t like their jobs. While you are still labouring working, appreciate the fact that you had that opportunity in the first place. After all, that job was not customized for you from birth. You are just lucky to have it at the moment.

I stopped thanking God it’s Friday, the day I realized that the way I handle another man’s business is the way I will handle mine. Don't forget, Friday is a good day for you to start working towards your success. 

See you at the top.

The writer is a labourer and a worker at the same time. His work MY BOOK OF SUCCESS STORIES has sold over 1,000, 000 copies. He is in 2030 Forbes List of Most Powerful People in the World.